Misunderstandings about the female orgasm, particularly regarding squirting, are widespread. Contrary to some myths, not every climax results in a stream of bliss, and the reality of squirting is often debated. According to Wendasha Jenkins Hall, PhD, a sex educator and researcher from Atlanta, the term “squirt” generally refers to a milky or clear fluid expelled from the vagina during orgasm, though its exact origin is uncertain. Some believe it originates from the bladder, while others suggest it’s released from the Skene’s glands, located near the urethra and responsive to G-spot stimulation.
Despite being elusive, squirting is a real experience for many. A 2023 study in The Journal of Sex Research revealed that over half of adult women have experienced it. However, the manner of expulsion varies, with sexologist Jess O’Reilly, PhD, noting it could manifest as a drip, dribble, or gush. While you might not notice it immediately, the orgasms that accompany squirting can feel particularly intense due to the sensitive nerve endings in the urethra, states Dr. Madeleine Castellanos, MD, a psychiatrist and sex therapist from New York.
If squirting doesn’t come naturally, it can be learned. Here, experts provide a guide to achieving it:
With any sexual activity, bodily fluids are involved, and squirting can be especially messy. To protect your bedding, Dr. Castellanos and Hall recommend using a towel or a specially designed sex blanket. Staying hydrated might help, as some people suggest it facilitates sexual response, although this is anecdotal, as O’Reilly points out. Relaxation is crucial, particularly if you’re attempting to squirt, as tension can impede the process. To enhance relaxation, consider emptying your bladder before engaging in sexual activity.
For beginners, Hall suggests lying on your back with legs spread, either during masturbation or partnered sex, as this position provides comfort and access to the clitoris. Others find that doggy style, which allows deep penetration and G-spot stimulation, is more effective.
Stimulating the G-spot can lead to squirting for some. Located inside the vagina along the front wall, applying pressure with a toy, finger, or penis can be pleasurable. Dr. Castellanos explains that this stimulation affects erectile tissue around the urethra, making fluid expulsion easier. To improve your chances, relax your pelvic floor muscles and consider using a pillow to aid access.
Blended orgasms, resulting from multiple types of stimulation, often lead to squirting. Combining clitoral stimulation with vaginal fullness offers dual sensations, says Hall. For solo attempts, a rabbit vibe can provide dual stimulation. If with a partner, combining penetration with a vibrator on the clitoris is effective. Hands-free vibrators are also an option if maintaining a toy in place is challenging.
Nipple stimulation can further enhance the experience. With numerous nerve endings, nipples can contribute to a blended orgasm. Partners can experiment with squeezing, pinching, or twisting, while solo sessions might include using nipple clamps or suction vibrators.
Some find they can squirt while standing, and the shower provides a convenient, mess-free setting. Leaning against walls or lifting a leg can assist, with the added benefit of easy cleanup.
If initial attempts are unsuccessful, don’t be discouraged. Everyone’s body is different, and while some can orgasm through penetration alone, others cannot. Squirting, too, varies in occurrence. Hall reassures that inability to squirt doesn’t indicate a problem; it might just be your body’s natural response. Relax and enjoy the journey, regardless of the outcome.
Meet the Experts: Wendasha Jenkins Hall, PhD, is a sex educator and researcher based in Atlanta. Dr. Madeleine Castellanos, MD, is a psychiatrist and sex therapist based in New York. Jess O’Reilly, PhD, is the host of the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast.